is it odd to buy a wedding band before the engagement ring?
me and my girlfriend are still in university and dont want to get married until after we finish, but we want to be engaged and are ready to make the commitment, but i can’t afford a nice engagement ring yet, so what she wanted to do was to buy the wedding bands for now kind of like as a sign were already married or engaged, then when we graduate and when i can afford the engagement ring, i’d buy that and propose officially, by then we’d already have the wedding band, is this sort of breaking tradition or something?
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John,
Before you jump to conclusions and except that you cannot afford a diamond engagement ring at the moment, I suggest you look online first. Online diamond retailers sell the same rings you would find in-store, but for up to 50% less.
It is tradition to first buy the engagement ring, then the wedding ring. I see no point in breaking with this tradition. I understand not being able to afford a nice engagement ring at the moment, but I think you’ll be very please with what’s available online. Try http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/ or http://design.jared-diamonds.com/engagement-rings/?Nic=0 to get an idea of what I’m talking about.
I bought my now-wife a James Allen engagement ring and we both couldn’t be happier. She got a perfect, high-quality ring she simply adores and I saved nearly 45%, got free shipping to my front door and enjoyed the comfort of a cash-back guarantee. Plus, the ring came in a gorgeous presentation box that earned me extra brownie points
Give online a look – I promise you’ll thank me that you did.
Good luck, John!
Get a promise ring instead. It’s weird to have her wearing a wedding band at this stage. A promise ring is customary in that kind of situation.
I agree a promise or commitment ring would be better. Let her pick it out and then take her on a romantic date and when you feel it is right give her the ring. It’s sweet and I can gurantee she will love it.
Not all couples choose to buy an engagement ring, either because of budget or preference. My mom wore a pearl ring instead of a diamond one also, so you could buy a less expensive ring now and upgrade later.
If she wants the wedding band now and doesn’t care that people will either a) not think she is engaged or b) think she is married if she wears the band, then just buy her the wedding band now.
http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Black-Hills-Gold-Diamond-Leaf-Ring/1464067/product.html
This is the ring I bought for my wedding band/travel ring, it is very small and delicate but the diamond is sparkly and it is quite pretty. I wear it on my right hand but will use it on the left hand when I travel so I don’t lose my nice engagement ring and guard. I was pleased with Overstock’s prices, I also bought my fiance’s band from there for half the price of the same ring at Zale’s.
I agree that a promise ring is a good idea but its not such a bad one to get the wedding ring out of the way. no your not breaking a tradition, the tradition is what you make it its your engagement your wedding do it your way. i think its cute and nice that you want to be able to afford something nice for her as an engagement ring.
remember it might be a nag when people are asking "your married?, wow i didn’t know" and you explaining that its not marriage but a promise.
ya no…
You can spend just as much on a wedding band as engagement ring.
And engagment ring can be any ring you want, with any stone…if money is an issue get what people call a promise ring.
And if you are still in university you are not ready to be engaged.
It’s not common, but it does happen and it is not out of the norm. Many couples buy a commitment ring before they buy the engagement ring. This is usually a low statement band that brings you two closer to the day you offer for her in a proposal. Think about buying a style that would be flexible enough to go with her engagement ring once you two are ready to go the next step.