Is There Anyone Else Who Feels Theme Weddings Are?????
getting totally out of hand???? Elves, dragons,vampires,cinderella .is this a wedding or a costume party? perhaps it’s just me and my age but I feel a wedding should be dignified,classy,and on a mature level. Sure, have an inspiration such as my first wedding…inspired by Gone With The Wind but I did that by the style of my dress and wearing a picture hat instead of a veil, and having my girls carry parasols and wearing wrist corsages..and didn’t have people as field hands chopping cotton and singing "Old Man River" or the reception room decorated like Atlanta Burning……..
I’ve seen questions in reference to beach themes, winter weddings,etc and they all sound lovely. And I-’m not so stuffy that I feel you can never bend tradition…but all this Princess-Cinderella, Dragons, Elves,Nascar, etc smacks not of the gentle,classy dignity you expect from a wedding celebration but little girls playing wedding ….anybody else of my generation feel the same way?
Oh Grammy am I ever with you..I got smart the second time I married…smal intimate gathering at my sister’s with very close family and friends..foods either ordered from a deli, bakery, and many home made..it was wonderful, fun and sooo family oriented….this theme insanity is turning wedding days into movie spectaculars befitting Ben Hur , Cleopatra and The Towering Inferno….I can just imagine it years down the road…."Here’s Mommy & Daddy at our Wedding..we’re the one’s wearing matching rings and vampire teeth!"
To all who disagree with me here..I will NOT give any of you a thumbs down as you all are intitled to your opinions, no matter how you express them..I just miss the dignity that these weddings are lacking…it should be a wedding, not a costume party….they are gonna be sooo embarassed years down the road at their wedding pix, believe me….especialy when their kids laugh at them…
For the record I don’t find ‘theme’weddings of this sort offensive…flabbergasted is more like it..and after that wore off I’ve been laughing hysterically ever since…..
To those calling me hypocritical you need to get your terminology straight..my first wedding gown and my grils dreses were in the old south antebellum style…I did not have an old south theme…style is not theme….and having wedding decor & colors influenced by a place such as the beach is not a theme unless you plan on dumping tons of sand on the dance floor and pass out scuba gear to your guests…sheesh….
I think this is one that the Yahoo! Answers members should vote on…aint gonna change my mind but it’ll be interesting to see which way it goes……and maybe the one who comes up with the chosen best answer wil approve of my wedding theme when my hubby and I retake our vows…he looks like Santa so maybe Santa’s Workship will be our theme…anybody have a reindeer suit????
…and I am not not angry, believe me…haven’t had such a good laugh in years…..
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First, I think it’s interesting that you feel *some* themes are ok ~ but others aren’t. It seems that you aren’t against themes entirely~ you are just against themes you don’t like. A little hypocritical, no?
I have always felt that a wedding is a celebration of the couple, their current relationship & their future together. Yes, for many people (including myself) that involves a classy, traditional celebration. But all people are not cut from the same mold ~ if someone chooses to celebrate w/a theme that is *special to them* who am I to say it is wrong???
Especially considering the fact that these days many couples are funding & planning their own wedding ~ let them do what makes them happy. No one says you have to attend, if you find it so offensive.
I never go to a wedding expecting a "gentle, classy dignity" I do, however, expect to enjoy a few hours with friends & family & a couple who is embarking on a new adventure. And if that celebration includes Nascar, Elves or even Elvis ~ so be it.
EDIT: "Style" "theme" ~ you’re splitting hairs, here. Who cares if the parents are embarrased in later years. It’s not your life, so why worry about it??
Not at all. While I wouldn’t do some themes, there are others that I do like, so if the couple wants to use them, why do you care? Why not go and support them instead of nitpicking the whole thing?
Yes I`m with you. But, I was at one time of the receive end of these weddings. It is amazing how much these girls will spend to out do their friends wedding. It is all for show. Where it should be for love. Me I eloped. Cost us $10. for the license and $10.00 for the priest. That was 42 years ago. Not a bad return for the bucks. Top that Cinderella
How elegant or gaudy a theme is depends on how well it is designed with the theme in mind, like the example of your wedding you spoke of. I would hate to see the bride dressed up as a princess with a cone hat and the groom as a prince with a tunic.. thats more like only in Vegas.. I have no idea about nascar ._.
But hey all the people who aren’t here asking about themed weddings are probably having classic traditional weddings.
Well, I’m doubting I am of your generation, but I think the wedding should suit the people. I know people who wear nascar pajamas…if thats what they want their wedding to be, that’s their decision. I don’t think anone one else should have any predisposed negativity about the plans for others weddings. And if you do, perhaps that would best be kept to yourself. Everyone is unique. We don’t all have to fit into the same mold, and for some the thought of wearing a white dress and having bridesmaids carrying parasols would make them cringe. You already had your wedding…so stop concerning yourself with the women who desire to step out of the mold and have their own party.
In an honest observation of American society, class, classiness and dignity isn’t as "popular" as it used to be.
For my wedding, I’m having (I guess what you could call) a
I- Don’t- Really- Have- A- Theme- But- I- Want- My-Decorations- To- Match theme.
LOL, I always love your posts.
Themes aren’t for me and I personally can’t imagine planning a themed wedding. People will do what they want regardless of how anyone else feels about it. I think that for the most part, traditional weddings are the norm and maybe people with themed weddings seem to ask more questions because it’s not as easy to get ideas on how to plan those weddings. Personally, when I hear the words "classy" and "dignified" I feel like there can’t be any fun there at all. I think if ever there was a time to be happy and have fun it should be at a wedding. Those words remind me of expensive evening dinners where people dress up in their best clothes and talk to business associates that they secretly hate. I’m pretty sure you don’t mean it exactly in those terms though. I think weddings that center around the marriage are the best weddings. I have heard of very few weddings that actually have dragons, elves and vampires. If a wedding is about the couple and the marriage then it’s a good wedding. It shouldn’t be about money, the flowers, favors, cake, expensive clothes, seating arrangements or any other thing that women stress over so much. I’m probably not of your generation but I feel like if a couple is mature and ready to be married it shouldn’t matter how they do it. What I’ve heard from those who have been married a long time is that so much planning goes into a wedding and down the road it doesn’t matter so much. Going to the courthouse doesn’t make you any less married than the person who drops a million dollars on a big event. I think weddings in general are out of hand. People spend a lot for one day. I go to a wedding hoping to see a couple in love and to enjoy time with friends and family. I go there to show support to the couple and I don’t need a theme or a huge traditional wedding to do that. You can have a couple getting married and having a traditional, classy wedding but end up with a marriage that fails.
im in my mid to late 20’s and i cannot stand theme weddings!!!!
i am totally with you!!!
when i got married a year and a half ago, we had a normal wedding with no theme. it was actually pretty hilarious the dirty looks i got from vendors when i said we didnt have a theme nor were we going to have one.
i think they are pretty rediculas too!!
If the couple wants a theme, whatever it may be, who are you to judge? Do you know for a fact they will regret doing so or are you simply assuming because you think they should feel the same way you do? I agree with another poster who says you’re being hypocritical by saying some themes are ok but others aren’t. How do you determine what makes one acceptable and another bad and why do you feel it is your place to decide that?
For many couples, weddings are not intended to be stuffy. You can have class and let your hair down at the same time. Why do they have to be independant of each other?
I would never turn my wedding into a costume party, but I wouldn’t tatoo a full sleeve on my right arm either. Different people have different tastes. I think it’s nice to see that my generation is comfortable with expressing themselves in non-traditional ways. I luv people for being creative and different. I also enjoy your posts. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
LOl, you crack me up. Don’t take offense, I mean it in a good way. Even though I’m having a "themed wedding" I agree they do go a little too far. Favors and centerpieces are fine, but requiring guests to show up in costume to fit into the theme, is just ridiculous. I’ve never been to a themed wedding where they acted scenes or anything like that, I think that would be pushing it…
I bet your wedding was lovely. I love Gone With The Wind.
I’m worried about going too far with the theme we chose. But there are certain things that we both really want. Rather then type out our entire idea I’ll include a link with an answer I did where I described most of them. We’d love to here what you think. Even if you don’t like our idea and put us down, it’s good to hear other peoples opinions.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjSIDyzyirkF7L3YSKydPXfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080105103525AA1ACow&show=7#profile-info-ahwoqRiJaa
I totally agree with you. I never, ever ‘heard’ of a theme wedding til I came on Answers! Yes, different styles of weddings, but surely not these ‘themes’ that seem to come right out of children’s birthday parties.
We had a very traditional ethnic wedding, which was a WEDDING - there’s the theme - love and commitment!!! I suppose, GASP, that we are just very old-fashioned at heart!
I have to say themed weddings are not my cup of tea, but weddings are a joyous celebration, they are about having fun and celebrating, I really think it is up to each couple to decide what is right for them, I’d rather attend a wedding that was fun and that was geared towards the likes or interests of the couple than a boring same old same old wedding. I think it is better when a wedding is tailored to suit the couple rather just having something for the sake of it or because it is expected.
I would say a good theme wedding is cool- swing or 50’s or even Halloween but they use to be rare and done up right!! Now it’s seems everyone is doing a weird theme but it’s half ars with lots and lots of people….. I have been two a few "theme" wedding and it was just a regular wedding with some knick nack crap thrown around- not nice. Just cause you slap mickey mouse on a cake and on the tables- it’s not a theme.
i agree…it does seem like a costume party…weddings are also starting to be a little overrated if you ask me…