Comments on: Is There Anyone Else Who Feels Theme Weddings Are?????

By: marchhareinjune

marchhareinjune — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

First, I think it’s interesting that you feel *some* themes are ok ~ but others aren’t. It seems that you aren’t against themes entirely~ you are just against themes you don’t like. A little hypocritical, no?

I have always felt that a wedding is a celebration of the couple, their current relationship & their future together. Yes, for many people (including myself) that involves a classy, traditional celebration. But all people are not cut from the same mold ~ if someone chooses to celebrate w/a theme that is *special to them* who am I to say it is wrong???

Especially considering the fact that these days many couples are funding & planning their own wedding ~ let them do what makes them happy. No one says you have to attend, if you find it so offensive.

I never go to a wedding expecting a "gentle, classy dignity" I do, however, expect to enjoy a few hours with friends & family & a couple who is embarking on a new adventure. And if that celebration includes Nascar, Elves or even Elvis ~ so be it.

EDIT: "Style" "theme" ~ you’re splitting hairs, here. Who cares if the parents are embarrased in later years. It’s not your life, so why worry about it??

By: winter_spice78

winter_spice78 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

Not at all. While I wouldn’t do some themes, there are others that I do like, so if the couple wants to use them, why do you care? Why not go and support them instead of nitpicking the whole thing?

By: Grammy

Grammy — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

Yes I`m with you. But, I was at one time of the receive end of these weddings. It is amazing how much these girls will spend to out do their friends wedding. It is all for show. Where it should be for love. Me I eloped. Cost us $10. for the license and $10.00 for the priest. That was 42 years ago. Not a bad return for the bucks. Top that Cinderella

By: nasuradin

nasuradin — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

How elegant or gaudy a theme is depends on how well it is designed with the theme in mind, like the example of your wedding you spoke of. I would hate to see the bride dressed up as a princess with a cone hat and the groom as a prince with a tunic.. thats more like only in Vegas.. I have no idea about nascar ._.

But hey all the people who aren’t here asking about themed weddings are probably having classic traditional weddings.

By: perfect_blue_and_blond

perfect_blue_and_blond — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

Well, I’m doubting I am of your generation, but I think the wedding should suit the people. I know people who wear nascar pajamas…if thats what they want their wedding to be, that’s their decision. I don’t think anone one else should have any predisposed negativity about the plans for others weddings. And if you do, perhaps that would best be kept to yourself. Everyone is unique. We don’t all have to fit into the same mold, and for some the thought of wearing a white dress and having bridesmaids carrying parasols would make them cringe. You already had your wedding…so stop concerning yourself with the women who desire to step out of the mold and have their own party.

By: tashaocmd2

tashaocmd2 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

In an honest observation of American society, class, classiness and dignity isn’t as "popular" as it used to be.

By: kiki

kiki — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

For my wedding, I’m having (I guess what you could call) a
I- Don’t- Really- Have- A- Theme- But- I- Want- My-Decorations- To- Match theme.

LOL, I always love your posts.

By: Mathie

Mathie — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

Themes aren’t for me and I personally can’t imagine planning a themed wedding. People will do what they want regardless of how anyone else feels about it. I think that for the most part, traditional weddings are the norm and maybe people with themed weddings seem to ask more questions because it’s not as easy to get ideas on how to plan those weddings. Personally, when I hear the words "classy" and "dignified" I feel like there can’t be any fun there at all. I think if ever there was a time to be happy and have fun it should be at a wedding. Those words remind me of expensive evening dinners where people dress up in their best clothes and talk to business associates that they secretly hate. I’m pretty sure you don’t mean it exactly in those terms though. I think weddings that center around the marriage are the best weddings. I have heard of very few weddings that actually have dragons, elves and vampires. If a wedding is about the couple and the marriage then it’s a good wedding. It shouldn’t be about money, the flowers, favors, cake, expensive clothes, seating arrangements or any other thing that women stress over so much. I’m probably not of your generation but I feel like if a couple is mature and ready to be married it shouldn’t matter how they do it. What I’ve heard from those who have been married a long time is that so much planning goes into a wedding and down the road it doesn’t matter so much. Going to the courthouse doesn’t make you any less married than the person who drops a million dollars on a big event. I think weddings in general are out of hand. People spend a lot for one day. I go to a wedding hoping to see a couple in love and to enjoy time with friends and family. I go there to show support to the couple and I don’t need a theme or a huge traditional wedding to do that. You can have a couple getting married and having a traditional, classy wedding but end up with a marriage that fails.

By: zack's my handsome little ma

zack's my handsome little ma — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

im in my mid to late 20′s and i cannot stand theme weddings!!!!

i am totally with you!!!

when i got married a year and a half ago, we had a normal wedding with no theme. it was actually pretty hilarious the dirty looks i got from vendors when i said we didnt have a theme nor were we going to have one.

i think they are pretty rediculas too!!

By: SirenSong

SirenSong — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:27:48 +0000

If the couple wants a theme, whatever it may be, who are you to judge? Do you know for a fact they will regret doing so or are you simply assuming because you think they should feel the same way you do? I agree with another poster who says you’re being hypocritical by saying some themes are ok but others aren’t. How do you determine what makes one acceptable and another bad and why do you feel it is your place to decide that?

For many couples, weddings are not intended to be stuffy. You can have class and let your hair down at the same time. Why do they have to be independant of each other?