Ok, so how do weddings work?
What with the recent CA Supreme Court decision, I find myself in the surprising position of actually planning my own wedding. We had decided that we wanted to have a wedding on Labor Day weekend in the ruling went in our favor, but we didn’t make any hard plans pending the decision.
Well here I am now, making those hard plans and I only have until September (and no real budget). Now, I was never one of those girls who grew up dreaming about a wedding day, so frankly, I don’t have a flippin’ clue what to do now.
Here’s what I do have:
- a tentative guest list (~50)
- a location – a private beach in Malibu that belongs to my mother-in-law’s neighborhood (we already have a domestic partnership)
- I know we want to involve horses in the ceremony. We have our own horses and tack and whatnot
- A videographer
Past that… I don’t know any of the traditions, the ceremonies, nothin’. And while we will be making up our own unique ceremony, I’d like to know at least where to start.
Again, I have NO budget! lol… We’ve got a little saved up, but I’m trying to keep it under 00.
Oh, and we do have rings and the date – Labor Day weekend. Probably that saturday, but we’re leaving it a little flexible for now.
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You know, all you REALLY have to have is the, "Do you?" "DO you?" "You Are".
Everything else is up to you. Find some passages from poems, books, etc., that are meaningful to you both. Write you own vows. Say something beautiful about what you both believe is the nature of love – if you are religious in any way, use a prayer or reading from your text of choice.
It is all about YOU TWO. You don’t have to do anything anybody else has ever done. You will still be just as married. You are unique people, so why should you have a cookie-cutter wedding?
A good place to start, if you are not religious, is the ethnic backgrounds of both you and your ladylove. If you are Irish, German, Italian, whatever, there will be cultural aspects that you can involve in your ceremony to make it more personal to you and your family – celebrate that heritage!
Hire a wedding planner! Then you can just concentrate on enjoying the day without all the worry of having everything done!
You have the big stuff decided already, so you have a great start. If you go to any of the wedding sites, theknot.com, weddingwire.com or google wedding planning, there are great checklists and what not to guide you through the planning process. And just because, typically these sites say "bride" and "groom" the information is totally applicable to you. Congrats!
ok the 1st thing to do is set the official date
then hire a minister to perform the service
do you want flowers? if so start going to flower shops
you’ll need a photographer
you’ll need to figure out what you both want to wear
order and send out invites
get a caterer
do you want a dj for the reception?
where will the reception be?
will you need chairs for the ceremony?
tables and chairs for the reception?
do you want a wedding cake?
pick your 1st song to dance to
you’ll need rings
do you want to get hair/makeup done?
do you want to have a wedding party? if so you’ll need suits or dresses for them
music for the ceremony
food for the reception
decorations for the reception (centerpieces)
decorations for the ceremony (mostly things like tulle for an aisle or a something to make an alter where you will stand)
and of course, don’t forget to get your marriage license a week or so before the ceremony!
that’s about all i can think of now, also, don’t be afraid to ask friends and family for help (they can help make food, provide chairs, help with flowers. using wholesale or fake flowers saves a ton of money, maybe one can take pics)! there may be things i’ve left out. try theknot.com for a super detailed list too!
best wishes and congrats!
you need a date to start planning stuff then a venue
You have no budget but you want to keep it under $1000?!? That’s gonna be rough…weddings are expensive, even if it is for only 50 people…Are you just doing a ceremony? Or are you having a reception? Are you planning on feeding them? Do you want flowers? a DJ? Photographer?
Try www. theknot.com for help with your planning, good luck.