What is the proper "invite etiquette" for a bridal shower?
I am getting married in September. My mother and bridesmaids are throwing my bridal shower and have requested a list of people to invite. I am not sure what the proper etiquette is when it comes to whom to invite. Do I still invite the people that live really far away who I know will not attend anyway? Do I invite the females on my fiance’s side that I dont really know that well? I already have all the females on both our sides of the family invited, but Im not sure what to do about non-relatives and those who live really far away (several states or more).
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For non-relatives, only invite the ones that either you, your fiance’s mom or your mom are close with. Some people invite every female they are inviting to the wedding, but I think that’s overkill. Just invite relatives and those females you are close with! As for far away guests, use your best judgement. If you’re close with the guest, even if they can’t come, they’d be hurt if you don’t invite them. If you’re not that close with the guest, don’t invite them because they’ll feel obligated to send a gift and won’t be able to come.
Anyone that you are close with,it would be a good idea to invite the females on your fiance’s side.They don’t have to be related to you for them to come.Also find out if the people who live far away if they can come,if they can’t there’s no need to send an invitation.
I say a little bit of a mixture.Though,1st and foremost,the ones closest to you.Do it R.S.V.P. too so you get an idea of how many things you need to get.Send invites out and see who calls.I hope I helped a bit.
You should still invite the people who live far away but likely won’t be able to attend. They know that you won’t be offended if they don’t come, but will likely be more upset if they aren’t invited at all (and rightly so, because it would be rude). Unless your fiance’s side of the family is giving you a separate bridal shower, then you should ask your fiance if he thinks these ladies would like to receive an invitation. If he can’t answer the question, ask his mom or sisters what they think. If you don’t know the females on his side very well, it might be okay not to invite them, but if they’re that close with your fiance, it might be best to avoid burning any bridges and include them.
An important tip is to make sure that everyone invited to the shower is invited to the wedding. You’d be surprised how many women think it’s okay to invite people to the bridal shower and then not invite them to the wedding. That is one of the worst things you can do. Good luck!
You would invite females from both sides of the family. Ask your future MIL for a list from their side – aunties, cousins, close friends. You would not invite people from far away.
Don’t invite people from far away. Don’t invite people you don’t know. Proper etiquette says that the mother of the bride does not throw the shower either. This just looks like your trying to be greedy and get more gifts. I didn’t mean to imply that your were, just that it looks that way.